Welcome to the Energetic Radio Podcast. This episode is brought to you by the

SchoolOfPlay, co hosted by Dale Sybottom and Paul

Campbell. Each week we'll bring to you tips, strategies and ideas on

how you can bring more joy and happiness into your life and those you share

it with. All right, ladies and gentlemen, welcome

to the Energetic Radio Podcast. We're back in the bunker for

episode 363 and it is good to be back

a little bit rested after a nice long weekend and fresh off a pies

win against the. Against the D's had a nice one point win out there,

which was a bit intense. I was at the game and it was, it was,

it was a good one to be with the kids at. But I'm joined by

the ever baby blue eyes, Dale Sidebottom. How are you, mate? Thanks, Cambo. I'm good,

buddy. You're good. How's the weekend? It was good, mate. Did a lot of Lego

weather timetable, obviously long weekend, couldn't really do much. So

what'd we do? We put together a Simba, we did a Spider man

thing and I just found out that Brie showed me, my wife showed me this

thing that you can get this app and just over a whole pile of Lego,

you can scan your phone and it picks up. What, and you can make

things. Yeah, it could tell you what you can make from that out. So I

was like, good, because I, I spent about 80 bucks just over the weekend buying

Lego. Each day I'd make one, I'm like, I was raining against and then I'd

buy another one. Yeah. And I'm like, oh, he's a game changer. You literally just

scan it like you've your phone over it and it's

identifies what you got and then it gives you all options of things you can

make. If anyone can see my face now, now I'm literally mind blown. I was

like, how cool is that? Because if most households are like ours, obviously we've had

numerous Lego sets and they get broken apart. Now we've got a big tub, right?

And now there's. Everything's just thrown a big tub. Except for our current builds we're

working on. And mate, that is so exciting

to me. Pour down a pile. You've just put it in a pile

on the table and it'll give you all the options. There are parents everywhere listening

this going. I can, I can hang up now. I can press stop now. I've

got all I need out of this episod. Amazing. Yeah, I only just saw it

last Night. Because Brie's like, geez, you spend a bit of money on lego. I'm

like, yeah, I am. Because it's something really that I can bond with my four

year old. Yeah. Like we really. It's a nice thing while like the two year

old sleeps and. Yeah, so we're doing one each. Like it's a good two

hours, you know, uninterrupted. It's just really good bonding and

great for his development. It's bloody brilliant, I think Lego following the

instructions. I'm the same with Hunter and Parker. I sort of nustle through and get

the pieces out for them. But they, yeah, follow the instructions. I think it's brilliant

for their development. I'm a huge fan of it. I'm not sure if you like

us. We've got a laundry cupboard full of, you know, you have kids

birthday parties and things and we've got. I reckon at the moment there's probably about

six sets up there that unopened, haven't been built yet. And

sometimes we'll get them out and re gift them. You free gift them to some

people, but when kids, pays come up. But yeah, if you're anything like ours, we've

got absolutely like about six sets there ready to go. But

that's awesome. And obviously Lego. Have you been watching LEGO Masters? I have. It's just

too much. So, like, why. No, like it's all awesome. Yeah. But it's

just here we are spending two hours building a Simba that you can see in

the back there. I was real proud of it. And then you're saying to I

watch LEGO Mask. You're like, oh, give us a spell. I know. It's amazing what

they build in eight hours. It's crazy. Incredible. Don't get me wrong, I love it.

I think it's insane. Yeah. And I think it's one of the ultimate family

shows because we're the same every night. Like we, we rushed. Not rushed home from

the footy. But my eldest, Hunter, was like, dad, what time is? I'm like, at

six o' clock. We're at the MCG at this time. He goes, almost six o'

clock. And he goes, oh, we might just get home for LEGO Masters. He's already

thinking about it and he couldn't wait. And we got home and watched LEGO Masters

as a family. And yeah, I think it's just brilliant for what it does for

connecting people, but. And also gets them excited with Lego because I think

it's such a creative thing and it really allows each individual

to get what they need out of it. Yeah. And there's no right or wrong

way to do it. And I know we had Marcus on a while back that

reckons the sets and I get what he's saying, but that's where

you, I think having a nice bit of both. Because when you do

create one of these things, you put it up and you're proud of it. Yeah.

You know, now obviously Marcus was talking about how the sets are

a one off. So I think like you buy your set of Simba, you build

it, it's one off there. But now that app you're talking about, that's. You don't.

That's debunked out now 100% it has. And like they're not just

created for that. All the pieces in there. Yeah, yeah. So anyway, I was

watching, looking last night going, wow, that's it. I was probably more excited

like, geez, I don't have to just every day get on Amazon. Talk

about a dream job. I would happily, honestly, I don't know about right now in

my life, but at one stage I would have happily put my hand up and

gone and been a LEGO creator designer, go, right, we want to build it.

We're not smart enough. No way. Don't kid yourself, we're creative enough. Come on,

mate. Have you seen that? It blows my mind when you look at all the

bits and then what makes frame it. I'm going to reframe it. Sorry for

putting you down, but upon. Reflection, you are correct.

That was real. I had to dig there. But I believe in what I said.

Yeah, that's all right. I'll reframe it. I'm putting myself in

the same category. I know you are. That you dragged me down with you and

I appreciate that. I will reframe it and go. I would

have loved to have done work experience for a week

with the team at Lego spread and watch how they do it. Well done.

All right, on that topic. It's completely gone silent on that

topic growing up or even now. Where else would you have liked to have done

work Experience, experience to learn how they learn behind the scenes.

I would have loved to see like big like

self motivation sort of speakers like Tony Robbins and

like how he prepares and what work he puts into it and how he got

his formula. And I've never actually gone to one of them, see these people. But.

But I'd love to see like the format they do to inspire

and impact people. Yeah, gotcha. And like for example, the

initial meeting with the client. Look at the outcomes, how it all goes and

piecing their presentation together sort. Of more probably like when they're doing a big talk

to hundreds, how they design it to, you know,

connect with the audience. Yes. You know, and that's something that is really

important. You can't just create. There has to be a story behind the flow. We've

talked about this a lot. When obviously we're designing ours. A lot of work goes

into it and I would love to see how somebody does it on that scale.

And I would have back then. Cause I think it would have blown my mind.

You. I agree. Oh, man. I'm a dag. Even currently now, I'm happy to

admit it. I'd love to work in a really hustle bustle kitchen. Oh, yeah.

Number one. I've always been. I'm nailing them now, like poached

eggs. I'm nailing them, but I'm like one or two at a time in the

water, get the water spilling. So I've always been mind blown as to how they

cater for like, you know, smashing cab, like a cafe that's busy on a

Saturday morning, and how they're pumping out 100 poached eggs in quick

succession and getting them perfect every time. I'd love to go behind the scenes and

get that little trick of the trade. Or just the hustle bustle kitchen and just

work within it for a week and just see how it's all done and the

meal prep and what else would they love to be? Growing up, always

wanted to work in a surf shop. Yeah. I don't know why that would be

the boringest job. Always wanted to work in a surf shop. Obviously. Always wore

the clothes, man. It was just the dream. Hopefully getting a heap of free clothes

out of it. But I thought it'd be a cool joint to work at. But

yeah, at the moment it's probably just a real hustle bustle cafe. Yeah. So growing

up I worked at McDonald's and then when I was at uni, worked at Noodle

Box. And so I was in that environment. And for anyone that's worked at

McDonald's, it's a great organization, but that is next level. Like you're working,

you're working. Yeah. Time flies and you are busy. Yeah,

yeah. I'm just grunting with Macca's. The moment we went to Macca's yesterday. Right.

How's this? Went to Macca's last night. The way home in the footy and we're

in. We're two cars ahead of my sister in Law's car, right? The drive through

was really busy. Like I was out the street and I said in the missus.

I go, oh, yeah, I reckon it might be quicker. I'll run in an order

inside because there's no one inside. She's like, yeah, good point. I said, you just

drive around and meet in the car park. The other car, my sister stayed in

the drive through line, two cars behind us. I went in, all right, and it

took 21 minutes for them to serve. Me because I don't care about you. The

drive through line, they left 10 minutes ahead of us, 10 minutes gone. And

we were like, that's bullshit, isn't it? Like they're looking after all the drive through

people way before they did that. One person that was in there ordering. So note

to self learning curve, stay in the blade for the. They don't like people going

in now. And that's one thing I've really, really don't agree with. McDonald's

how they've put those scre. And a lot of times you go in there and

you're like, excuse me. Hello, is anyone here? I don't want to order on

your screen. 21 minutes. Yeah, I want to talk to someone and just order my

meal. Like, I want that customer service. And then I very calmly said to the

young person, they gave me the meal over and I said to myself, I'm just

gonna let you know that I've waited 21 minutes and not one of you have

said sorry for the wait. I said, just gonna pass that feedback on because it

would be. It would be good customer service to that. But thank you anyway. She

was like, oh, no worries. But yeah, we'll move on to some positive stuff, shall

we? Good old Maccas. It was good Maccas. Oh, Lego. I like it. Lego's positive.

Lego, that's true. Very pos positive. I love it. I'm like, that happens. Blow my

mind. I can't wait to see. I can't wait to see next video. I'll show

you the video as soon. As I get out of the bunker. That'll be awesome.

Bit about both of us. So I want to talk about falling off the bike

and getting back on again. I actually asked you this question this morning and I

asked you for a reason, because it's in my mind. I obviously wrote some

goals down at the start of the year. New Year's resolution goals. Most of them

around that fitness sort of. And some business goals and personal goals. The last sort

of month, I reckon I fell off the bike. Massively we were super busy. Like,

we didn't release a podcast, what, three or four weeks, that's how busy we were.

And away and just, you know, routine went out the window and

that kind of stuff. But the last week and a half, we've both been really

mindful of and we had a chat. Right, let's get back into it. Healthy week.

Back at the gym, running, working back towards the goals and God, it feels good.

Oh, yeah, done that. I don't know, I'm a bit. A little bit up and

about at the moment and feeling good. I've been running really steady and doing, you

know, my workouts and bits and pieces and just having good, healthy routine because we've

been home. And yeah, just the other morning I was like, man, I just feel

good and excited again about working back towards those

goals because I forgot about the goals I had set for about six weeks there

and now working back towards them. But, yeah, I don't know, good luck. Because we

were raped the next three weeks. I know we're away again for the next three

weeks, but I'm determined. Oh, I know, I know. We say this every time we

go away and we end up having counter meals at pubs and a couple of.

Beers, but then you're talking all day and you've got to work at night and

it just throws you out and you're not in your own bed and you're traveling

every day. Yeah. But, God, it feels good falling off the bike. And that moment

when you know it, you're in the. In the. You're like, shit, it's been three

weeks. I've only ran a couple of times. I'm feeling a bit sluggish for it.

And then you get back on the bike and it just feels unreal. And now

we're in winter, it's cold, it's June. There'd be so many people whose

news resolutions would have fallen by the wayside. Oh, yeah, dudes, we've got

to. They finish. I think most are done by February. Yeah, right. People or

whatever, they wanted a half. Year to go, so the back half of the year

can be your time, you know what I mean? And go and revisit those goals

that you set and go. Right. I've still got six months to go, so pick

yourself up and. And have it on the crack because intrinsically

feels bloody awesome. It does on the bike, so. It does. Yeah. If

anyone's out there in the same space as I was a couple weeks. Ago, I

was, too, so. And I've been. Yeah, I'VE been back at the gym. I'm feeling

good and started walking again and just doing things that.

But I must admit, my routine has been. I was always an early

riser. And that's for people out there. The kids don't sleep. It's not

easy. And I can empathize with you. But then when you're away, so much

for work, trying to get back into. I haven't even bothered trying to get back

into it. Yeah. So I've just been looking at our calendar, and, yeah, the

second half of the year, we don't have as many weeks booked, in a way,

so that's. Yeah, I'm sort of. I'm going easy on myself. I'm not putting

myself down or saying, you should do this. I'm still doing things. It's probably not

where I'd want to be. But, yeah, that's because you've got

to give and take a little bit. And at the moment, other areas of my

life are taking a lot. Works fantastic. Family's busy, so,

yeah, sometimes you got to give yourself a little bit of slack. You do. Yeah.

I like that. It's very good advice. I love that. The other day, we're running

a workshop and a lady asked, you know how the energy's

insane? She was like, the energy's insane. How do you. How do you maintain that?

What's going on? And short of going, you know, we exercise meat well, and yada,

yada, yada, all that crap that you normally throw out, you know, I

sort of had a chat to her and I was like, you know what? Just

focus on the stuff that takes no talent. And she was like, huh? And

the face was like, what do you mean by that? I said, just focus on

the things. The best way for you to get through life and with a bit

of a springy step and just focus on real simple things, is focus on things

that take no talent. And she was going. She goes, give me a couple. So

I wrote them down. I was like, right, so stop comparing yourself to others first

and foremost. And even that got her mind thinking. She was like, oh, shit. Wasn't

expecting that to come out. So, takes no talent. Stop comparing yourself to other people.

Stop comparing yourself to your workmates. Well, holidays, they went on. Yeah, stop

comparing yourself to us. Exactly. Right. Yes, we've got energy, but that's our.

That's our game face. What's our brand? Yeah, it's our brand. So game face, that's

our stage Persona, whatever it might be, you know, it's our alter ego. Well,

at the end of the day, like we don't have a job unless we have

that. I mean, I think that's where when you do have the comfort of the

security of a job, you don't have to show up like that and you can

get in a rut. Like what we've spoken about 100 so stock compare yourself to

others was something takes no talent controlling your emotions.

So that to us said, obviously we've got to. We. We have the alter

ego and sometimes you're knackered and you can't be bothered or whatever. It might be

a little bit stressed. But you, you control them and you. I

don't know, compartment, you put them into perspective, I guess, and

then go, right, this is what my emotions need right now. Or if I'm getting

frustrated, I control them a little bit. So that was an easy one to do.

Perspective. I've spoken that so many times in this pod about just always putting things

in perspective. I've started using, I think I said it last week or the week

before about if you put all of the world's problems in a pile. Yeah.

And I've started using that heaps in my own life. Yeah. In my own mind.

I'm not telling the world about it, but that helps me as well.

And the last one I told, which takes no talent is just keep connecting with

people as much as you possibly can. Always make the effort of time

to reach out, whatever it might be, catch up with someone. And that gives you

a little cup filler. You know, I mean I was out last week for trivia

night with the boys I haven't seen for about a year and it has even

a week out, a week on. It's still giving me a little bit of a

high from that catch up. You know what I mean? So, yeah. I thought it

was an interesting question. We get it a fair bit. Right. We get it a

fair bit where people are like, how are you guys so energetic? Yeah. Well, we're

humans. But yeah. Just focus on things that take no talent, I

guess. Yeah. And at the end of the day, like, I don't know,

it's up to you how you show up. Oh, I know you're the same. I

want to be known for someone that shows up and makes other people happy. Yeah.

And that you've got to be intentional if that. Yeah. It doesn't cost anything but

it, you know, it's just the way you've got to show up and it's that

personal brand that you build. Yeah. And that's checking in with yourself. Isn't it going,

how am I doing today? I'm flat. Right. Get myself up. Yep. You know what

I mean? Yeah. We're finding things that get you up. I know that's. We're pretty

selfish with how we start off a lot of our talks. We do them with

things that allow us to get our energy going that makes us feel comfortable, but

then also goes bang. And even if we are a bit flat after going for

half an hour, you're like, oh, I'm back. Yeah, that's it. You know, Whereas if

you don't do it and you don't get your body moving, you don't get that

connection going, the fun, you feel the vibe, you will stay in that rut.

Yeah, that's a really good point actually. You think about with the way we kick

things off, it is all energy for the first 30 minutes. Right. And the

best thing about it is the smiles and laughter that you get

back in return and you feed off that. Yeah, of course. So

if you're flat and obviously even not everyone's running workshops,

presentations, but they're playing games. But everyone,

everyone's out there in society, in the life. So if you are feeling bloody flat,

get a smile, back off someone, go and do something kind for someone, you know,

I mean, inject something out there that you'll get something back that will put a

bit of a spring in your step. Obviously don't go there and start clapping or

playing 1, 2, 3 or paper, scissors, rock split with random people out there.

But you know, one thing I do in the morning, my foot is, you know

what, we're dogging it with footy and I love handballing my footy to

a random dude walking past. Bloody love it. But the smile I get off

it, that gives me a little bit of energy back and I reckon that sets

up my day when I get one back. Just that little five second interaction

is awesome. So if you're out there, you're not running workshops, but you want to,

I don't know, inject some energy into yourself, do something. Yeah. You

don't do running a workshop. You just go and have a conversation, give someone a

compliment. Yeah. Ask them an interesting question. Yeah. Like, don't just say,

how are you? How's your weekend? Like, how's your day? That's crap.

I've got an interesting. I'm gonna, I'm gonna save this later. But on that

I've got an interesting question without notice for you, so go for it, mate. I

was reading something that I've had a really cool. Like a new conversation

starter when you're out at a pub or at a party, whatever it might be

when the small chat. So instead of saying, hey, I'm Paul. Yeah. What do you

do? What do you do? Yes. Yeah. How was the weekend? Yeah. How the kids,

all that kind of thing. This one was. I'm gonna ask you right question with

that notice. What in your life are

you currently a beginner at? Currently beginner

at. It's a great question,

isn't it? Oh, God.

This is awesome. I don't think I've ever stumped you like this.

And everyone knows that this, this is a. This is a question without notes. Yeah.

100, mate, normally I can think on my feet, but I actually don't know. What

am I a beginner at? I actually don't know, mate. I'll be

honest, okay? I've got no idea. Yeah, it made me think too,

when I saw that one. I'm like, jeep, it's. It's a thought provoker. I'd say

probably beginner with how I deal

with certain situations in my family when I can't control them and

having outbursts and I'm. I'm still haven't graduated from a beginner.

I was still well and truly. I've bloody tried, I'll be honest, but

I find it really hard. So I haven't graduated from being a beginner, mate.

I've still got me L plates on. I haven't done me 120 hours. Yeah, I've

probably done my 120 hours, but there's no way anyone's giving me the P

plates. Poor Brie. Still got the harness on.

Like the guide dog looking after me. No. So, yeah, I'd say that's probably

mine. You've had time to think about it. What would yours be? Yeah, I have

been. Oh, in my personal life at the

moment, a soccer coach. Yeah. Because I took on the duties of coach, my

son's under 7 soccer team this year. And whilst I've been a PE teacher and

things my whole life and worked in sporting clubs, I've never actually coached a

junior soccer team yet. And, you know, you're in charge of eight little

souls and their parents and that. So that's been a good learning curve for me

is, you know, to be the. The positive thing, but also the, I guess, the

role model. But the. I know the past run of knowledge, but the

relationship building, the parents and the WhatsApp group, all that kind of stuff that comes

with it. I'm navigating for the first time, which is. Which is kind of fun.

And the last few weeks in particular, I found that balance between,

I don't know, being the best mate at the start and really put to now

being a little bit firmer and a bit firm sometimes and pulling them up on

stuff. The other day they're off their heads at training. We listen to a thing.

So I made them do sprints. Yeah, a little thing. So I'm a

thing of a beginner in the old sports coaching. In terms of junior things, obviously

with workman, I'm a definitely a beginner. All things website development.

I'm lucky I've got you in my corner to be the creative mastermind behind our

website development and all that. You know, the foundation stuff, releasing our books and things.

But yes, all things technology. You are definitely.

This gig is making me improve my technology use.

So I'm a beginner in that aspect, but starting to graduate a little bit. Not

in website development, but technology use a little bit.

That'd be. Yeah. I don't know. I'm the same, though. It was a tricky one,

wasn't it? Yeah, good question. And I'd love to know what some people that like.

I'm a beginner at guitar still. I've had it for bloody ages, but my God,

I'm the same. I've not graduated to intermediate anywhere near it yet. So I'm definitely

a beginner guitar player.

Yeah. Don't know. I might use that. I think that's a really interesting. Do you

know what I think is a great question? But you'd also freak people out. You'd

freak them out 100%. You would. I reckon it's probably Good question but

probably too much for someone you don't know. So on it, like, it's too.

It's too in depth. Yeah. But it doesn't even be something you don't know. Like

even with mates you catch up with and sometimes you. The conversation

goes, how's work? How's the family? That's where I'd think it work? Yeah. With mates.

Yeah. What's been happening, you know, something you haven't seen for a while. But yeah,

even. Even talking to a mate like you and going, hey, what's up at the

moment you're a beginner at. Yeah, it's great. Get your mates going. That's where I'd

probably do it. Not when you meet someone for the first time. Jesus. I'd be

like, wowza, bloke's doing a bit. We're on a. We're on a road trip this

week, I might try it with someone. I don't know. You see how it land.

So on that question, do you think, and I don't know the answer to this,

do you reckon we should all have something, that we're a beginner at the moment?

Like, do you reckon every. Every human going through life should always be trying to

learn something new and always be a beginner at something? Yeah. Correct. Because then you're

trying something new, like 100%. You're always learning.

Yeah. Oh, I definitely say that, isn't it? Everyone listening out there, just stop

yourself now and go, all right, what am I a beginner at currently? Yeah. And

if you're really struggling, go, shit. Okay, let's step out of the comfort zone and

pick up the new Hobbit or a new something to try or a new

skill or. Yeah, learn something. No, like, I think that's a good one.

Yeah. No, it was interesting. Something else that I bloody love

the other day. Just a really simple

statement. It's all internal. Everything,

like everything in life is internal. Right. And

the analogy came from, you run a marathon, you finish

that marathon, someone doesn't come to the finish line and inject you with dopamine.

Yeah, correct. All internal. Right. So nothing external gives you

that. And. And when I read that and I saw that, it got me

thinking about, Jeepers. That is such a simple yet

powerful sort of sentiment to think about how everything

is internal, how you react to things, your perspective on things.

Everything's on you. Everything's on you, isn't it? Yeah, absolutely everything.

And that's where people go, like, they're not having a good day or things aren't

going well, then that's not. That's not on the. You've got to do it yourself.

Yeah. And the world's going to piss you off and get frustrating, it's going to

get annoying and those sorts of things, and stress. But

the reaction is internal and the way you look at it is internal and the

outlook on it is internal. And the way you spin it to a learning curve

or a positive situation or whatever it might be, or a growth opportunity,

all that stuff is absolutely internal. And those feel

good. The serotonin, the dopamine. Serotonin,

Serotonin, oxytocin, those feel good

chemicals that we want to experience. It's only bloody

from you. Yep, yep. That doesn't come from external things. You know

what I mean? It's even. You get them, you know, someone said, wait, hang on.

You get it from Watching your kids play sport. So that's external. But you

still want the one that showed up to watch your kids play sport. Yeah. And

you're allowing them to be there. Yeah. You've got them there and you're

present watching them. You're not scrolling on your phone. No. Do you know what I

mean? So you're getting those because you're intentional with what you're doing.

It's all bloody. Everything is how you feel about yourself.

Your. Your body image, that's internal. Stop comparing yourself to

others. Be happy with who you are. Love. Love the. The good traits about you.

You know, love you for who you are. Yeah. You. You don't

focus on the negative traits because they're all got them. Go and bloody do something

bad. Yeah, boy. If you want to focus on the negatives and that's what you'll

think and you will be down. You won't feel positive about things.

But we've all got things that we don't like about each other. No such thing

as perfection. No one's perfect. And deep down, nobody else thinks about

those about you. People don't walk around and think, what are their imperfections? Yeah.

People are thinking about what they're good at and I think we need to change

that and do about ourselves. Yeah. Think about what you're good at. Don't worry about

the things you're not. Try and do things to improve those if they really upset

you or they consume your mind. But focus on things you're good at and be

proud of those. Very simple. Very simple. I really love it.

I'm going to roll that into. We

run a lot of workshops with young people and I reckon as a parent

I found this really useful and I've actually used it with my kids and I've

started using it a little bit in workshops. You may have noticed, but

if you're an adult and you're talking to a kid and. And they're. Because we

know nowadays that kids are struggling with mental health concerns. Younger and younger, which.

Which is really upsetting. But a really simple way to sort of get into. Think

about it is. It's going to sound weird at the start is a

young person's pretty much only got one job, Right. Adults, we've got numerous

jobs. We're a parent, we've got a career. Finances to the house, food

and the table. Sports coach. I've got so many jobs, it's

not funny. But a kid's really only got one job because they don't have to

look after finances. They have to look after mortgages and coaching and careers and blah,

blah, blah. And that one job is to look after a human

themselves, and that human is themselves. And

if you sort of make it easy for me, think about, if, if you're a

dog fan, think about giving that, if you said to that kid, hey, if we

were to give you a puppy to look after, what would you do? You

know, you'd. Would you make sure you feed it well? Yep. Would you make sure

it's got somewhere nice and to have a good sleep? Yep. Would you yell at

it and call it horrible things and. Or would you talk to it beautifully

and tell it you love her and you know those sorts of things and really

look after it and stroke it and pat it and do all these things for

you, you know what I mean? So. And I've started using that. You can see

a few kids go, oh man, I've got one job and that one

job is just to look after me. You know what I mean? Make sure I'm

connected to people, make sure I'm talking, making friends, make sure I'm treating people kindly,

make sure I'm eating good food, make sure I'm sleeping, make sure I'm exercising, make

sure I'm learning. And it's just a really simple thing I

said to my son the other day and he actually said, thanks. He goes,

thanks, dad. And I wasn't expecting a thanks, but I could

see that was just such a clear, easy picture for him to know that his

one job at the moment, he's him, is him. And just focus

on you. Don't compare anyone else, yada, yada, yada. And then once you've got you

sorted out, then, you know what I mean, Be super kind to the world around

you, but just focus on you and be 1% better each day.

I think everyone can do that too. Even if you are, you know, we've got

so many other jobs. That's your most important job. Because if you don't do that

well, then I'm guessing most your other jobs aren't going as well as they could

be either. Yeah, true. And I imagine there's shitloads of adults out there

who are that career focused or that family focused and I get the family one

as well, I get the career one. But who put those things first

before themselves? Themselves, yeah, that human. Even if you've

got kids, I'm sorry, your main role is to still look after yourself, right? To

be the best person you can. Be for you and the year round and those.

Then your best dad, yeah. Wife, husband, whatever you might be,

brother, sister, auntie, uncle, your job, all that comes second. If

you love the person you said. And all those things you just reeled off will

flow and will work if you spend, if you're intentional on

being looking after number one first. Yep.

Yeah, I just thought it was a really clear and easy way to explain to

young people especially just what, what your role is at the

moment is just look after you go and learn, you know, go and. Very true

play. Yeah, very true. And it's great for young people but also adults

listening. That's your role too. Yeah, I think it's a pretty simple way of doing

it. It's not the easiest role to have though. It's a lot easier to do

other roles. Yeah, it is, isn't it? Yeah. That's why it's hard. It's hard.

It's effort. But yeah, I get it. I get it. Ladies and

gentlemen, we enjoyed the. The chat. We hope you

did too. We are about to shoot off in a bit of a regional tour

to the furthest regions of Victoria. Again, this is lovely state of ours

but yeah, we've hoped you. And we've had some really lovely comments about our pod

this week with Michael. We know he's been receiving some, some lovely comments

too. So thank you to everyone that's shot him some love and appreciated the messages

that he was sending in last week's pod. We hope you took something from that.

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